In my 20's, I let a lot of shit slide. I put everyone and everything before myself. At 21, I gained this obsession with trying to make certain people like me. Which lead to me doing the most to seek validation from these people. When I didn't receive it, it would cripple me. I would question my self worth, I would question everything about myself, I would question my existence. I was self sabotaging almost daily. "WTF was I thinking" now comes to my head 10 years later. Yes, it took me 10 years to realize, I was worthy of receiving RESPECT. I wish I could go back and tell that younger version of Rachel that it's okay if she's quiet and shy. It's okay if she can't carry intellectual conversations but that doesn't make her the dumbest person in the room. It's okay to make mistakes. It's okay that she dropped out of college. It's okay to be misunderstood. It's okay if people don't like you. It's okay to exist as RACHEL. 

So if you're in the room, with someone who makes you feel like shit, and goes out of their way to disrespect you, learn how to remove yourself from the table. Nobody has the right to make you feel less than. RESPECT who you are in this very moment because she is a part of your evolution. Lastly, always show RESPECT, but walk away when the RESPECT is no longer being served. 

Much love, 



  • Jessica Deering

    This was exactly me in my 20’s. Everything you say is 100% what so many of us go thru.

  • Yvette

    Thank you I needed to hear this.

  • Krystina Romero Padilla

    I needed to see this 👏❤️🖤❤️🖤

  • Ana Rodriguez

    I just wanted to say thank you. I’m reading this at a point where I feel like shit, but know that I am finally walking away from a situation that was not bringing me joy. Your words are really helping me validate my decision and giving me the constant nudge forward that I’m needing at the moment. So THANK YOU!

  • Laura

    I can relate so much to this, I fucked up so many times and I wish I could go back in time and think the way I do now. But hey, everything happens for a reason right. I also dropped out of college, I also put others before myself. Now at 30, I ain’t letting nobody step on me or tell me I can’t do anything. It’s ME, MYSELF, & I. Cuidate mija, you are bonita.
    Love ,

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